On the Issue of Settling

When I was on my way to work this morning, I was disturbed by the topic of discussion. The topic was "Should we be settling for Mr. Good-Enough?" I was shocked at the amount of callers. One woman called who had a settled marriage. She said she had dated a series of guys and felt like she wasn't going to find that Knight in Shining Armor. So she settled. She said she had been married for 11 years and there was no spark. The reason she chose him is because he seems to be the best option and would be a good father and husband. But there was nothing in her voice indicating that she was happy. I was listening to the dialogue between the D.J.s and one of them was saying that as little girls we are taught that there is a Prince Charming and he will be perfect, we just need to wait. She said in all reality, there is no Prince Charming, we need to get our head's out of the clouds and live in reality. 

I disagree 100%. I do not think anyone should settle for anything. If we settled in life, what in the world is our purpose then? I have dreams of getting married and having a family. But I will never settle. I have too much self respect for that. It's not worth it. I would rather live the rest of my life single than settle for less. People have told me that my standards are too high and that I need to be more realistic. I'm not looking for 10 boyfriends. I'm looking for just 1 man. One man that I will spend the rest of my life with, and happy. So out of a couple billion people living on this planet and only one man of my dreams, I will absolutely be picky. There is no shame. 

I don't want to settle for anything and I don't want to be someone on the other end. That's not fair for me and it's not fair for the other person and certainly not fair for potential kids. I want to fall in love and I want my future husband to be madly in love with me, because I am perfect for him. I don't want to be Ms. Good-Enough I want to be Mrs. Perfect for Him. 

I have dreams. Dreams that are worth fighting for. Since I was a kid I had dreamed of going to college and graduating with a degree. When I was in high school it seemed impossible to even graduate that. But I fought. I could have settled and just gotten my G.E.D. But that wouldn't have been fair to myself. I wouldn't have been happy. College was an absolute struggle but I don't regret it. In fact, I consider it one of my biggest accomplishments. I can proudly look back and say that it was worth it. I graduated and I got that degree. I fought because I did not want to settle for less. I knew my life was worth more than this. 

In I Samuel, Hannah wanted so badly to be a mother. She cried and prayed about this dream she had. Her husbands other wife had plenty of kids and was not nice about it either. She bragged and showed off. She told Hannah to give up and said she would never be a mother. But Hannah would never settle. She wanted this so bad. And finally, her prayers were answered. She had a little boy and gave him back to God and since then, she was blessed with several more. If she had settled, she would not have been a mother at all. She would have given up and listened to the other woman. But she didn't. She pursued and fought.

So, Dear Reader, you and your dreams are worth the fight. That guy you've been dreaming about is worth waiting for. You are worth more than just settling. Fight for that dream that is within you.